How to control your anger - 8 easy steps

Anger is a normal feeling of mind. But if it gets out of control it can harm your relationships as well as your health. Though anger is important in some situations but you should know how and when to show it.

Here are few steps to control your anger  :

Step 1 : When you're not angry

1. Practice relaxation

Find some quiet time and practice relaxation like mindfulness, deep - breathing exercises, listening to music, walking around nature etc. These things keep your mind relaxed and less stressed.

2. Practice empathy

Don't judge anyone from your point of view. Try to understand their situations from their perspective. It will help you to better understand others and their acts.

3. Take a break

You should always take short breaks from your work and stressful days. It brings your mind back to the normal state and you're better prepared to handle what's ahead.

4. Express your emotions

Frustration can build up when we keep our emotions inside for too long. Express how you feel, your stress, your frustrations everything.

Step 2 : When you get angry

 1. Recognise the warning signs

While you start getting angry you may feel depressed, irritated, anxious or you may want to run away from the situation. There are also physical signs of anger such as grinding your teeth, headache etc. Try to recognise the warning signs. It will help you to know when you are angry.

2. Take gaps

When you are angry take few seconds between that feeling and reacting. Count down 1 to 10. During this time your heart rate will slow and your body and mind will also calm down.

3. Think before you speak

There can be various reasons of anger. Think about that reason once you calm down. The reason may be a person or a situation, but whatever it is think how you will deal with it.

4. Respond accordingly

Respond according to the situation. Are you angry cause your boyfriend or girlfriend has cheated on you or cause he/she has lied to you about his past relationship. In both of the cases your response should be different. If the reason is strong enough to show anger then state your concerns and needs clearly. Your words have more power than your temper.

I understand it's much easier said than done. But if you get angry too often then this is the time you practice controlling your anger. When you be like shouting and showing anger in all situations no one will value it. But if you take control of your anger and show it when needed everyone will respect it.